Showing posts with label Fear of Writing. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Fear of Writing. Show all posts

20 May

Head-Butting Writer Fear...

 

I have this "thing" about spiders... I mean, I don't go catatonic or anything when I see one, and I can scoop a household invader into a plastic container and throw it outside to live a free and glorious life, but its hairy legs and mine should never meet if I want to stay out of an asylum...
 
So one day, I thought, you know, I should get over this "thing." I should face my fear head-on, or as best as could be mustered, and then I could be One with the creepy-crawlies. Long story, short, I took a guided tour through the Venezuelan jungle to meet up with those foot-long diameter Green-Bottle Blue tarantulas they have down there, where the guides use smoke to have them fall from the trees into big metal pans. Sad tale: the tour I picked went to an area they didn't inhabit, but I did get to see a 14-foot termite mound! Gad, I was itchy for days, just thinking about it!
 
Anyhoo, my pathetic point here is, don't flee from your fears and weaknesses. Endeavor to meet them head-on, and force yourself over and over to take on that fearful "thing" a) you know you're not good at, in fact, you suck it; and b) is your worst fear, your worst weakness, so if you eventually get comfortable with that "thing," everything less fearful than that will seem a complete cinch!
 
I know what you're thinking. You're thinking, "Okay, B. J., you're nuts. The definition of Fear is to WANT to flee from said."
Yeah, yeah, I know, but consider this a game. If you finally tackle your worst fear about writing, you'll have a future of literary fearlessness! Nothing, from that point forward, will stand in your way.
 
Another example: the closest I get to sci-fi anything is watching Star Trek (Star Wars bores the heck out of me. Yeah, yeah, stop throwing rotten tomatoes at me, I'll just keep ducking), and I do NOT write sci-fi. Ever. Never. Like Never-Ever. So, I purposely decided to enter a writers contest where I was forced to write a sci-fi short story. Holy heck! Okay, now I'm sweating bricks! But once I stopped hyperventilating, and with major fingers-to-keyboard grunts and groans only a tennis player could appreciate, I ground out a tale, had a sci-fi-liking beta reader peruse it for the gaffes therein, and I submitted it... never to win, of course.
 
BUT my hesitancy on writing sci-fi basically dissolved. If I ever had to do it again, a lot of my former doubts were already washed away with that first scary attempt. I learned from my sci-fi beta reader some formation points about the genre, and in the attempt I grew as a wordsmith, returning to my preferred writing realm with far more confidence in my capabilities.
 
HOMEWORK: Write down your greatest weakness in writing, and decide to tackle it head-on, to drown that fear. Repeat the attempts until you've put that weakness in your rear-view mirror. 
 
NOTE: No one has to see those attempts. This is just you facing your greatest literary fear. You won't die doing this, but you WILL grow and be far less fearful. I promise you.
 
Remember what I've earlier said on this site: the art of writing is mostly psychological. That's why it's one of the most difficult métiers to undertake.
 
If you face overcoming your writing fears, like the bullies they are, they will dissolve quicker than you think, and you'll write into the future with the confidence you never thought you'd possess as a wordsmith.
 
P.S. I'm going to see those Venezuelan spiders before I croak. Just sayin'...

16 April

FOTS - Fear of Time and Space - the Writer Version

 

FOTS - Fear of Time and Space - the Writer Version...
I just invented this acronym. If you find it on Google, I'll be amazed.
 
I invented it to ask you a question:
Do you think that when you sit down to write, the world is moving on without you? That everyone on this Blue Marble is hustling, bustling, laughing, gathering gobs of fun and cool experiences while you grow moss under your butt?
 
Yes, FOTS is Literary FOMO squared, but have you considered switching your viewpoint of the known fabric of Time and Space?
 
Could it be YOU who is moving faster through the universe than everyone else? Experiencing more, feeling more, living so much more that the fabric has severed you from the rest of the world?
 
Maybe in such warped speed you feel like it's you who have come to a crawling stop when it could be everyone else not able to catch up.
 
I think that with every book written, we writers are piloting a jet-fuelled craft achieving warp speed. Maybe that's why when we focus and choose words and craft sentences we are so exhausted after the feat.
 
The next time you sit down, and you think you'll be left far behind in the human experience, think again. You and your work maybe spearheading through the never-before-seen fabric of life.

13 April

What If - The Under Bed Saga...

 

You're about to write.
 
Oh, geez... you feel AWFUL!
What if the words...
What if the readers...
What if the agents...!
Rrrright.... that does sound horrifying.
 
No way should you write with those What If's!
Hide!
Yeah, right there, under your bed!
Ignore the dust bunnies. Use them as writer What If camouflage!
 
Stay there, hiding forever! Seriously!
If I were you I'd stay there. 
 
Only place you're safe from THOSE terrifying What If's. 
Crikey, I'm shocked you're still breathing having those What If's near you!
 
And once it's dawn ('cause EVERYBODY knows What If's can't get you once the sun comes up), donate your writing pen, burn your writing paper, put your laptop on eBay, and thank your lucky stars you managed to not write in the knick of time. Cripes, that was close!
 
Man... bloody good thinking on your part, to not write. Now that you're safe, you have wayyyyyy more time to read other writers' writing, and be dead jealous of their successful careers until you die. 
Yay, team!
 
I'll check in on you tomorrow, to see how your not writing is going. 
I'll know to look for you under your bed, no worries.

29 March

Fear of Writing - Ride the Wave...

 

Fear...
It's the No.1 driving force behind writers not writing.
 
People look at fear as a bad thing, when in reality it's truly your friend. That emotion warns you of perils ahead. *But what if those perils are merely imagined, and not real?*
 
Writers, artists, more than any other societal group, have an imagination that can equally feed greatness and fuel impotency.
 
The solution: welcome it. Ride the wave of fear! 
 
When it comes over you, embrace it. Say out loud to yourself, "I am afraid of screwing up. I doubt my efforts will succeed into anything meaningful," then whip on that imaginary bathing suit, grab your long board, and hit the surf, DETERMINED TO RIDE THAT FEAR by WRITING RIGHT THROUGH IT, like all it is, is another wave that carries excitement and adventure, not self harm.
 
After 4 literary novels, a writer How To, a child's adventure memoir and an edited writers group anthology under my belt, I've retrained my mind to know that when I get nervous before writing, that means I'm on my game, totally focused and alert, ready for anything, and I dig in and start clacking those keys.
 
I know I can always hit delete on those words that carry those negative feelings, but guess what, peeps? I never need to, because it's just my fertile mind playing with me, prepping me for the task ahead.
 
*You need to retrain your mind.*
You need to acknowledge the fear.
Say Hello to it. Welcome it back.
 
Carry it with you to the paper or keyboard and ride those jittery feelings right through to those first sentences like the water tubes they are that only end up crashing onto the shore, into nothingness, and you laugh at the fantastic ride you just survived!
 
This is YOUR chance to take an adventurous ride with your mind. 
 
Are you game? Follow me. Let's go surfin'!
Try this tactic, and comment below.